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Laid off and having a hard time getting over it...
I lost my job three months ago. It wasnâ€™t my fault; my whole department was cut. Iâ€™m having a hard time letting go of my old job. It was a great job, and I was there for over 15 years. My resources are dwindling, and I need to get another job soon, but I canâ€™t stop feeling bitter about how my old job ended. What can I do?
Itâ€™s really hard to let go of a job you did for such a long time, even if it werenâ€™t a great job. To lose it for no reason under your control is doubly hard. It will take a certain amount of time to mourn that loss. Donâ€™t try to suppress those feelings or get around them; that only makes it take longer.
Unfortunately, we eat and pay rent and accumulate bills on a daily basis, so we donâ€™t always have the luxury of acting on our feelings. Thatâ€™s about where you are now.
If you havenâ€™t started the job search process, now is a good time to do so. Come to the Frederick CountyÂ Workforce Services Orientation, sign up in the Maryland Workforce Exchange, attend our seminars, alert your network, meet with a Career Specialist, draft your rÃ©sumÃ©. Many job seekers show up at the Business and Employment Center every day because it gives them some structure. Itâ€™s also a great place to network with other job seekers and BEC staff, and pick up news about whoâ€™s hiring.
You may just need to go through the motions for a while, with no apparent improvement. You may need to get counseling (see a previous Ask the Career Coach column, â€œUnemployed and terrified of losing my house, my car, my life!â€ from
March 24th, 2009.)
The good news is that if you keep at it, there will eventually be a new job for you. It may well be a better job than the one you left. In a few months, you may actually be glad you were laid off, because otherwise you wouldnâ€™t have this terrific new job.
Change is tough for everyone. But thereâ€™s a brighter day ahead.